something happens when you're talking with someone "online." the effect happens just the same through texting, but i've been noticing this through more old-fashioned modes such as instant messaging and e-mail: it's so much easier to talk with someone online than in real life.
in three very different situations, i've found myself talking closely with people that, in real life, i don't talk with, wouldn't talk with, or can't with.
and it's not me. i'd be just as comfortable talking face to face as through a keyboard.
it's them. these introverted or gruff people have been the ones who have been much more conversant than i would ever expected.
why is it? is it just easier to write than to talk? does it remove a lot of the social cues and nuances of personal communication, allowing us to fill in those gaps as we'd like to imagine the person, even though we may know them rather well, just smoothing over minor imperfections?
i don't really feel like going into the psycho-socio-implications of this, because that feels like homework for my mfa class (or maybe it just feels like one of those long posts that never turns out as profound as i imagine it being). at any rate, i just think it's interesting.