Sunday, May 11, 2008

someone like you

i was once lamenting to a friend about a girl whom i liked but didn't like me back.
"why would you want to be with someone who didn't like you?" he asked.

that question is either ironic or irrelevant, depending on how you take it. one could argue that, "well, i wish she would like me." otherwise, it makes its swift point, leaving you with no option but to concede they're right.

at church today, i was looking around and saw several girls i think are pretty. "i'd be nice if she had a crush on me" is an easy thought to nurse. yes, it would be nice to have one of the pretty girls from church interested in me. but when i imagine that, i also imagine that her interests are the same as mine.  i want to her like me and to like coming to classic movie night and to sing with me in the car and to read my blog with the same rapt attention that you have right now. i don't just want her to like me, i want her to change to be everything i want, and automatically include that when i imagine if she liked me.

how often does this happen even in relationships where people do like each other? that, even when there is a mutual attraction, we want more than them to like us: we want them to like all that we like, and to be all that we imagine could or should be.  it's hard to step back and remember that we liked them they way they were, and need to continue to like them for them, not for us.

in reality, i really don't have any serious interest in anyone at church; i just got thinking about the whole thing.

6 comments:

Em said...

You know, after you develop a relationship with somebody (romantic or not) you really stop seeing what they "look" like. You start seeing them as both their body and soul at the same time. It's funny, but totally true, if you follow me.

Alyssa said...

I can't help it... Your blog is listed in the "Friends" category of my RSS Feed and right after yours is a single friend of mine who is a librarian in Provo. And it just so happens that usually after reading one of your posts, I read one of her posts. And I can't help but think how cool both of your blogs are and how maybe you and she could.... No. Not going to go there. But you can read her blog if you want to anyhow...

Anonymous said...

I'm glad that I'm not in your ward and kind of have a crush on you, because if I did, you just totally smashed all my hopes and dreams with your confession that you don't like anyone in your ward.

Natalie said...

Ok, so the anonymous comment was from me...but just think---it could be anyone...

Anonymous said...

I agree with alyssa-read her blog. :)

-jekakah

Anonymous said...

I agree with alyssa-read her blog. :)

-jekakah