tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21792850.post114064115944002594..comments2023-06-09T08:14:55.315-06:00Comments on sheep go to heaven: in a friendly sort of way--jeff *http://www.blogger.com/profile/10924343100485992100noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21792850.post-1140740411617748022006-02-23T17:20:00.000-07:002006-02-23T17:20:00.000-07:00Thanks for the reassurance. What you say is true,...Thanks for the reassurance. What you say is true, but it still makes me sad. Sometimes I feel like I'm a wierdo for thinking the way I do, so it's nice to have some validation. I, too, like em's "big kahuna" analogy and feel the same way.<BR/><BR/>BTW, my hubby came up with my screen name which you find so odd. It is silly but fun to type and say aloud. I'm a licensed stylist and shoe fanatic (roughly 50 pairs), so it seemed to fit. I guess the fairy is just for the rhyming aspect. He likes to rhyme everything.hairyshoefairyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14939329143107250948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21792850.post-1140736250625215142006-02-23T16:10:00.000-07:002006-02-23T16:10:00.000-07:00shoefairy::that's the same question i addressed in...shoefairy::<BR/><BR/>that's the same question i addressed in some posting a few whiles ago.<BR/>i think the answer is different depending on who you ask, and i'm guessing that most of your guy friends back away out of respect to you and your husband. <BR/>when marriage is held in such high regard amidst a world where matrimony crumbles so frequently, super extra-care is often employed. i have noticed many girls in classes who seem to have no interest in talking to me because they are married. i used to attribute it to me being a weirdo [but a nice one], but i think a lot of it is that perhaps she has no interest [or doesn't think she should] because she is married. i suspect your guy-friends gave you distance out of respect, not as rejection.<BR/><BR/>there're no established guidelines that i'm aware of about that sort of thing [which is good- more law usually makes it easier to skirt around it]; em gave a nice comment to the posting, reminding that there is no need to lose friends like that because of marriage [although the relationship will most likely alter somewhat]. interestingly, i think i am much better friends with her now that she is a flinders. i admit, too, that i am happy to see mr renn added to her blog, lest any comment understandings become lost in translation.<BR/>mle said it wisely when she counselled that the bonds between you and your husband should be the 'big kahuna' of your relationships; when you mutually feel, understand, and live by that, other friends bring color to your life.<BR/><BR/>[thank you for your comment]--jeff *https://www.blogger.com/profile/10924343100485992100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21792850.post-1140733857813130102006-02-23T15:30:00.000-07:002006-02-23T15:30:00.000-07:00I love friends. I only have a couple from high sc...I love friends. I only have a couple from high school that I see on a regular basis, though. Looking back I remember many good friends that I'm sadly not in touch with much anymore. <BR/><BR/>I think the hardest thing for me is the change in friendships since I've been married. I won't bore you with dteails, but most of my friends were guys and it really just isn't the same as it used to be. I know it can't be, and I'm happy with where I am, but it still makes me really sad sometimes. I feel pushed away by them. Like they think since I'm married or they're married we aren't allowed to talk or even be friends anymore or something.It just kills me that we're not close anymore. Those few guy-friends that are still my good friends are the best and neither they nor my husband feel threatened by our relationships. That's the way it should be, isn't it?hairyshoefairyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14939329143107250948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21792850.post-1140650381247529452006-02-22T16:19:00.000-07:002006-02-22T16:19:00.000-07:00I've found that there are a few people worth fierc...I've found that there are a few people worth fiercely hanging on to... and most everybody else can just blow by and I don't much care. I'd say I'm still "in touch" with 7 or 8 film majors... only the people I felt comfortable enough with to not worry about whether or not they thought I was cool, or doing TMA justice, or smart enough... etc. People I never get past a superficial level with are easy to forget... or at least I don't regret that I haven't a clue where they are or what they are doing....<BR/><BR/>So sorry, it sounds like you lost touch with at least one someone you'd have liked to have kept as a friend for always.... and sounds like you can blame in on the holes in early cyberspace. But it's a small world, so you may still get a chance to fix that particular problem.... maybe.... right?Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09174424401721373062noreply@blogger.com